Relationship With Parents and How it Plays in Twin Flame Journey
“This is for you Dad, who’s taught me many things on a Soul level and how it applies in my own path here and onwards.” ~ TFU
When one is on a Twin Flame path to ascension, it is crucial to balance life from all aspects, and relationship with one’s parents is no different. The journey demands making things right on all relationship dynamics, including family, friends, colleagues and associates. Bottling up anger and resentment is 3D based paradigms. The whole point of the ascension process is to leave 3D based dynamics to anchor the 5D consciousness. For those who think 3D is on Earth and 5D is in Heaven, this is not the case. Dimensional state of being is your own perspective and consciousness. You shift your Heaven on Earth before your eyes, your current state of being in.
As above, so below
As within, so without
As the Universe, so the Soul
As I am writing this article, an actual tiny moth flew by me. This will be a different experience for all but your deceased loved one will often show you in their own unique way, by reaching out to you via some sort of signs and syncs. It is their way of communication to you. You will learn to notice it enough as your own awareness gets more heightened. In my case, Dad always shows me a sign of a real moth. This definitely brought a smile to me…
Without further ado, let’s begin diving into this. I want you to stay with me until the end to learn how your relationship dynamics with your own parents may be affecting your union process. If like me, you grew up with having certain conflicts with your parent(s), then this article will help you.
I grew up in a somewhat Indian conventional family. Growing up, we were closer to our mom than Dad. My sisters and I found it easier to go to Mom rather than Dad for any issues. He was more of a stricter parent whereas my mom was more easy going in nature. When it came to Dad and me, we didn’t have the same alignment or it is what I perceived at that time, though in later years, I actually realized how much I was my father. Even my physical appearance is inherited from my dad’s side of the family. I didn’t have much of my mom’s qualities. Like most girls, we also had our Father – Daughter moments. He took me fishing when I was little. None of our sisters including me wanted to work in his vegetable garden with him, haha… We associated this with torture and a chore but in later years as we had our own homes, we all got into gardening. Call it forced programming or just part of our life lessons. Today we take pride in gardening.
One thing I do remember is if I did go to him for something, he did take care of matters. I remember I must have been 5 years old when my teacher touched me inappropriately in class. I don’t remember how I told him about this but I remember him writing a letter to the school board. The teacher was expelled for 2 weeks, and later transferred to another school. As a child, up until the age of seven, I kept getting sick. My body would break out in hives, measles, mumps, lots of nausea sickness. Dad would come from work, without rest, immediately he would take me to the nearby hospital for treatments.
One of the many moments I remember is when my younger sisters and I would tie his hair in little elastic bands. I am sure you all have a few moments such as these as well. In my teenage years, I distanced myself from him. I found I was getting triggered each time when I asked him for money expenses while he would ask me as to why I needed the money. He didn’t do anything wrong with his parenting but I still hated explaining the reason which shaped out my independence. This aspect made me a self-made woman today. Last ten years of his life, I mended my relationship with him. Today I am thankful I did. When he was in his deathbed suffering from a stroke, approximately twelve hours prior his death, I began feeling the shutting down of my own body. I felt life was being sucked out of me. When I was told about his death the following day, I wasn’t surprised as my subconscious mind was already preparing me for it. At that time, I didn’t understand the spiritual concept behind it. It was after my Twin Flame awakening, that I understood he was from my Soul Tribe, and now my guardian.
A couple of days after his death, he came to say his goodbyes to me. I saw him come in a white light, head and shoulder image. He blinked in the light 3 times and faded off. I saw this with my eyes open. It was a moment I will not ever forget. During psychic readings, he shows up as they distinctively tell specifics about him. On the other side, he is around age 35 from the description I am given by mediums. He passed away at 69, a month shy of 70. It is interesting on what age form they embody on the other side. What age they passed away is not necessarily the age they are on the other side. After his death, I grieved him for 2 years not understanding the underlying reasons behind some of the abandonment issues. I felt partially orphaned, which is not uncommon after losing a parent.
Another aspect that didn’t help us getting close to our Dad was my mom. Whenever they had relationship issues, she would discuss with us vs my dad never spoke anything negative about my mom to anyone. While raising kids, parents should never discuss their relationship dynamics with their children as it forces the child in choosing between one over the other, a mistake often made by many. If this happened in your upbringing, try to look at your dynamics differently as well. Unfortunately, this is part of bad childhood programming. From a child’s perspective, a relationship between one’s dad and mom is a delicate process which when hindered can leave sour memories for the upcoming generation even.
Now that you got some of my own background dynamics with my own parents, you already noticed inner child wounding, subconscious programming and life and Soul lessons. By zooming into your many memories such as this, you can list them into two categories. My suggestion will be to consciously list some of the incidents you remember while growing up. This could be good or bad. Keep the entries separate in your journal. After you have listed the incidents, you can ask yourself questions. Below I have listed some questions to help you think about it on a much deeper level.
Why do you think it happened? From a Soul’s perspective, you chose to experience this. If it was something painful, wrongful or unjust, it didn’t make it right but by analyzing it from a different perspective, it certainly throws a different light to it. This is where applying forgiveness will be pivotal in your breakthrough of paradigm shift.- What valuable lessons you attained from it? This will differ as per what had occurred whether on a positive or negative note. Key point here is whether you find using these incidents as lessons to teach or share with others. If you do happen to share these experiences, the response from the listener will indicate how you are able to incorporate these experiences in a positive light.
- Would you change it if given another chance to relive it? If it was a negative incident, you can ask yourself if you are you able to move on from it. You can try practicing forgiveness. You can ask yourself if you are able to forgive on what had happen. If the incidents were on a positive note, do find yourself reminiscing on the wonderful memories and wishing to relive them.
- How are you letting these incidents affect your current life situations, whether positively or negatively? This applies for the good and bad memories. Good memories will be reminiscing them fondly whereas bad memories will be part of the healing mechanism.
- Last but not the least. How are you treating others from the same wounding if negative? This will apply to all your current relationship dynamics with everyone around you. From people known to you to even strangers. It is no surprise that when those who have not healed their childhood mishaps, they inflict their own wounding on others. Most often they do not realize that they are doing so, often stemming from their own inner pain. It’s the way the subconscious mind reminds the person to begin addressing the issues laying deeper, sabotaging the psyche.
As you can see from the points given here, when broken like this, learning to forgive is huge in Twin Flame journey. This journey forces you to come out of your hiding to make it right from all beginning and ends. When you give reflection to this, it runs deep. If your parent(s) is alive, talk to them. If you cut any communication with them, clear your Throat Chakra and convey to them. If you find it difficult to do that, write a letter and mail it to them. This is still a very powerful way of communication as the receiver will be forced to read through it word by word. Less chances of any argument being formed this way. By you ensuring that you have left no stones unturned to make amends by reaching out, you can then rest your conscience. At this juncture, you will find an inner peace.
For those whose parent(s) are no longer alive, you can write the letter by placing your intention by focusing on forgiveness as the focal point to clear any negative energy between you and them. You can light some candles daily as a ritual until the candles have finished its course. After which, you can burn the letter. Trust me, after even doing this ritual; you will feel a big load off your chest.
I hope this article has helped you to see your relationship dynamics with your parents a bit better. It certainly will explain the now moment with how every aspect of your life has shaped, even your relationship dynamics with your own Twin Flame. While this article is written more generically, by reading and understanding the underlying messages, I hope you are able to incorporate some of its teachings in your day-to-day Twin Flame journey and healing.
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