Why Your Twin Flame Is Not Committing To You
You have met the woman or man of your dreams, your perfect mirror soul, your one and only Twin Flame, so why is he/she not committing to you? If they have the same intense romantic feeling towards you just as you do, then why are they running away energetically from you? Why are they showing you emotional distance when you are hell bent in chasing them to spend the rest of your life with you?
These are the most frequent questions one asks when they are dealing with their Twin Flame, and I am pretty certain you have searched for many answers, through various Twin Flame articles and YouTube. In fact, I am sure you even watched some of the most renowned dating coaches who would have told you typical scenarios and reactions based on standard relationship rules, which must have left you even more confused than when you initially began.
Often you begin to ask yourself why you are giving someone time of the day when they are ignoring you or are emotionally not available. Let’s face it, if you are dealing with someone in a normal connection, right from the get go, you would have given up or moved on. Who wants to be going through the push and pull dynamics with the person of interest, especially this painful; yet if it were this simple, we would have done it already.
This scenario is not gender specific though majority of the chaser Twin Flames have more of a dominant Feminine Energy (DF) present and the runner Twin Flame carries more of the dominant Masculine Energy (DM). Though we carry Divine Feminine (DF) and Divine Masculine (DM) traits within us, one will be more dominant than the other.
If you are reading this article, here is a Twin Flame explanation for all your questions and dilemmas, as I will walk you through various avenues of what it means when you are on a Twin Flame journey, its lessons and why you must tread this differently than any other connections you have encountered previously. You will never get your Twin Flame’s interest the normal way, how about you try it the Twin Flame way…
Before we begin diving into the spiritual aspect and lessons of the Twin Flame connection, let’s dive into what constitutes of standard relationship rules.
Standard Relationship Outlook
You meet the person of your dreams, you want to have a long fruitful and rewarding relationship with this person and then they pull off or are not emotionally available. Basic scenario can be applied on either dynamics even if you are in a relationship with them.
We Like The Chase
According to standard relationship rules, if we keep going after unavailable people, it is because we like the challenge of the chase game. We want what we cannot have, and we cannot resist a good challenge. We have the dire need to change their mind up when it comes to us so that we can prove to ourselves on how much we were right all along, and that they were wrong about us all along. We want to be the ones who changes them. Because we are subconsciously getting attracted to unavailable partners, we are not energetically ready to settle down either and hence why we keep picking out the same type of romantic partners in connection after connection.
When we spend so much time pursuing those who are unavailable with the motive that if we get them, we would have found our own sense of worth. This is often stemming from having major insecurities, lack of self-esteem and self-worth.
Though this sounds a bit harsh, this is what normal psychology states about people going after unavailable partners. It’s like having an exquisite forbidden fruit, and attaining it will be the ultimate high prize.
I am sure you if you have discussed your Twin Flame connection to your family and friends, they must have advised you against your Twin Flame. They must have stressed on their silent treatment towards you or their lack of interest and behaviors towards you. Trust me, we have all been there and this why you begin to seek Twin Flames Teachers and experts to explain you the real spiritual reason on what is actually happening to you. Without further ado, let’s dive into the Twin Flame journey lessons and explanation.
If They Are Not Ready
This now brings me to the next part of my teaching and that is, if they are not ready for a committed relationship with you, it is because you are not energetically ready either. Now you going to argue that this idea is absolutely absurd since you dream of being with them day in out. There’s nothing you rather do but to be with them, to spend the rest of your life with them, to have your happily ever after. You are not delusional if you believe that they want the same, since they also feel this way but still they are running away from the connection.
What you do not understand is that they are behaving this way subconsciously to trigger you, an aspect of you that needs the most attention when it comes to your own self-worth and lack of nurturing towards your own inner child within you. They are teaching you through mirror effect on how to heal your own inner child wounds and abandonment issues, often a subconscious block from childhood. They are teaching you to go within and see where you are lacking in your own issues, your own fragmented soul from eons of conditioning and karma you brought into this lifetimes from many previous lives, from the beginning of its soul origin. Your fragmented soul is the very thing that is repelling your Twin Flame energetically and is keeping you at arms bay from them.
If you commit to you, your Twin Flame will commit to you…
You don’t have relationship problems, you have childhood problems disguised as relationship problems. You don’t have relationship problems, you have vibrational problems misaligning you into your physical union with your beloved. Healing comes from doing self-acceptance and inner work. Your goal is to make the relationship with you and your inner-child the number one relationship in your life. The sooner you begin to soothe your inner child, the sooner you begin to see the higher reason why your soul chose these dynamics within your connection so that you get the right triggering for you to do your own inner work.
Last thing you should be focusing on is how you can heal your Twin Flame. You have no idea how many times I see this happening time after time when Divine Feminines are too busy blaming their Twin as to why they are ghosting and flaking out on giving them commitment, and so forth. You cannot attain your own inner union by seeking union outside of yourself. The journey is meant to transform you into the highest version of yourself, your Divine Presence, and you cannot do that when you are focusing all your energy on your Twin Flame relationship. Their behavior is meant for you to realize your own worth; yes, maybe you would have preferred a less hurtful tactic from them but, let’s face it, if it wasn’t this extreme, would you have taken this journey seriously as you do so now?
I want to say not! So stop wasting your energy on finding out the reason why, and begin to ask the right questions on what you must do now. Ask your Higher Self to show you and lead the way. Begin to see things from an awakened soul. “An awakened Soul knows it is time to become the most authentic version of themselves through their own healing.”
Feeling Sorry For Yourself
Instead of finding their own power within, most stayer Twin Flames struggle here especially when their precious time during separation phase is wasted on self-soothing with temporary fixes by either talking it out with people, manifesting them back and so forth. Does this sound familiar. In addition, you know this already by now that manifesting your Twin Flame does not work when it comes to your soul lessons. The reason being, it is based off your own ego desires vs not waking up to your true authentic version of your Divine Self as you are meant to. If manifesting your Twin Flame back was so easy, majority of the Twin Flames would have been able to manifest their physical union and skip the healing process, and we all know how amazingly this works, don’t we? Trust me when I say that this will only take you so far because the underlying issues still exists and you need to find out what specific blocks are keeping you apart.
Your soul may give you a trail of clues through dreams, sign and syncs but in order to understand the full story, you must connect with a healer who can hold the space for you so that you can see a clearer picture, clear the blockages and heal on a vibrational level. Once you know what has been shown to you, then you actually heal with above method. Truth be told, you cannot heal what you do not know and the only way you know the “KNOW” is when you begin to know your unknown areas through a healer.
Which leads me to the next teaching that if manifesting their Twin Flame does not work, it leads to even more devastation for the stayer Twin. You can cry a river and journal your sorrows away, but until you make your unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it your fate. ~ Carl Jung.
Your “free will” only overrides your fate, not your destiny. Your soul scripted the lessons very strategically and no amount of surface healing will cover the grey areas. Those who claim they did zero healing and have attained a perfect harmonized union with their beloved are not in a soul connection. Soul connections are meant to transform you into the highest version of yourself and sorry, no love and light will be able to do this for you automatically. For more in-depth on what Twin Flame healing is, you can begin reading my 4 part series starting from here.
Getting Here
Your journey is designed very strategically by your Higher Self to get you to attain the life of your dreams. Your Ascended Masters, Angelic Team, Guides, your Twin Flame’s higher self are working in your favor. It is up to you to use your precious time in creating your Heaven on Earth experience through your Soul Alchemy.
In a Twin Flame journey, bulk part of its transformation is meant for all areas of your life. This includes having the best career, for some Twin Flames their mission work, having the financial freedom to do whatever you desire, balancing your family ties, balancing your karmic ties, clearing your ancestral lineage, meeting your desired health goal and much…much more.
When you are in high vibration by only concentrating on your transformation, you attract what you are in vibrational alignment of. Remember you attract what you are in vibration of, not what you desire. You manifest what you vibrate and emit, not what you wish as it shows lack of; you cannot manifest what shows lack, hence why working on yourself can never do you wrong in anyway. You deserve the life of your dreams with a magical relationship, and if is not your Twin Flame, it will be someone who will match your new vibrational level so either ways, you will meet your finishing line.
The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But, if you don’t feel really good on your way there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more. ~ Abraham Hicks
You can choose not to do anything when it comes to working upon yourself or betterment, or you choose to become the best version of yourself. Make your sound decision and live up to it. I hope this article finds you well. The Twin Flame journey is as magical as you have heard it to be. Simply believe in its goodness. If you wish to purchase any of my services, click here. Feel free to share this article if it resonates. Thank you and much blessings.
Know your journey, know your connection.
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